We have probably heard the song “Goin to the Chapel” and “Ding, Dong , The Wedding Bells Are Gonna Chime”. It’s wedding season in Florida. The mild spring temperatures, especially in Florida, gives us the opportunity to enjoy the outdoor venues before the heat and tourists descend on our beautiful beaches. I hear they are very popular spots for weddings.
As a native I considered several parks and indoor/outdoor locations. A beautiful oak shaded round gazebo surrounded by historic buildings. Across the street a 650 year old church neatly kept behind a white picket fence. Whatever your dream location, I know how quickly the sunshine turns liquid here, so mine had both indoor and out.
As we celebrate 14years this Tuesday, so even though it’s not always rosy, we’ve made it this far. We must be doing something right if we’re still happily together and happy 14years later. I would say our stubbornness, patience, and positive vision has served us both well over the years.
As I look back almost all our squabbles, they have stemmed from miscommunication. He speaks apples, I speak oranges our stubbornness keeps us going until we figure out where the issue is. Our patience with each other runs from infinite, to really short, yet here we are. 20 years ago I would have said some very different qualities make for a good, lasting, happy marriage.
The last five years humor, patience, fortitude, and hopefully Grace have seen us through.
Do you cook up something special, or let him treat you to a favorite? I save new recipes for occasions other than this. I’ve done this before so no anxiety during cooking. I try to surprise him. I’ve tried several themes over the years for these special evenings. Do your hair, makeup, fragrance, and decorate and or dress according to your theme. We’ve traveled for candlelit dinners in France, picnics on the beach, or English countryside. My goal is to make it memrable. A rustic country picnic with the family, might be right, or a sultry night with Spanish flair. Lower the lights, move furniture, get creative, choose a soft music to reflect your locale and theme. Without leaving our home.
Did our marriage happen like a romance novel not exactly. 14years strong, is a testament to our faith, love, and humor. Even more important the ability to adapt, meet life as it comes and never let those forces tear us apart. To the man I love twice as much today as when we first fell in love, Happy Anniversary. I love you, today, tomorrow and always.
Dust off your Easter bonnet, and get ready to put a spring in your step! For those of us in Florida spring temperatures came early again this year, so we get to put on our sunny dispositions now. All the flowers will soon bloom, and so will my allergy season. Cue my box of tissue that go every where with me. My favorite spring fun is watching the children as they help color the eggs, and search for hidden eggs to go in thier baskets. I always hoped to have a little girl just to dress for Easter. Sadly thst will not happen for us. So we live vicariously through our extended family and friends. While the advent of social media makes access to family photo’s much easier, here are several tips to help keep everyone safe.
Sadly, this fun-filled occasions must be tempered to keep our loves safe. I love Easter family photo’s!
- If you use a cell phone to take photos please make sure GPS/location function is turned off in the settings menu.
- Make your profiles private. I love social media, but after my ex-husband started spying on me, mine went to ultra private. The only people who can see anything have to be a friend first and approved by me.
- Tag your private photos to let people allowed know they are online. Control who can see these albums by invite only.
- If sharing even the aforementioned ways do not include child’s name, school, age, or other sensative info. A family member or friend knows any private info about your child. Apparently the bad guys can use this info at a school or other places to help them abduct children easier.
- Do not list the church you attend with your children. I know, I always want to be inclusive and have more members at my church too, alas not over social media posts, with pictures of your children. Cyber safety is both a new and scary reality in our world. Parents and extended family, and friends need to know this info to safeguard tour most vulnerable, just like locking our doors and windows, setting the alarm, or having a secret password that must be given if someone else tries to pick them up.
- Have fun! If you’ve taken these steps before like for school selfies, you’re all set. If not they only take five minutes to do. Relax enjoy the laughter, triumphs, and everything eggs. With the important tasks finished you can focus on coloring eggs, what to put in an Easter basket, and the menu for Easter brunch with familyfamily, the perfect egg hunt before everyone retiring for the evening. So the adults can relax and the children, go to bed dreaming of chocolate bunnies, and multi-colored peeps. Check out Spring cleaning tips, recipes, and easy decoration in our next posts!
Facing the rest of the year ahead.
If you’re like me we look at the year ahead and try to put habits in place that will make it easier to handle. My Pintrest boards are getting lots of added ideas. Every thing from recipes to holiday ideas, and don’t forget to update the calendars. I take this time out to both show myself some love, and get organized. Anyone who knows me has seen me go a little OCD when being organized. I try to start with the basics. Holidays, Anniversarys, home and garden, Birthdays and finance, parties, and other projects throuout the year. I start with the basics.
My planner/engagement/brain for the year. I like a full desk size book. Why paper you ask? In the digital world we live in things like smartphone, tablets, smart tv, and even the laptop & desktop give us access to technology at our fingertips. Paper and pen are still my go to medium. I will probably add it to my digital devices, but for my main list I prefer paper. It’s where I start from. If you’ve ever tried updating or creating a note when you were fast asleep you’ll know why I still keep my pen and paper.
I enjoy daily/weekly/monthly views in my planner. It helps me stay on track with both what I need to do today as well as looking ahead in the week or month. There are a lot of free pages available that can be printed however knowing myself, I would probably take a page out and loose it as I become involved in what ever project I’m currently working on. The last several years I’ve turned to Cat Naps.
It is wire bound so I can leave it open atop my desk for quick daily checkins. I have important dates, appointments, moon cycle, holidays, and contact info that I transfer yearly into everyone. I usually purge or make changes as I go. I know your reading this and saying I have all that in my phone. I do too, but the tangible works better to help me stay on track.
As the bills arrive by mail I enter the due dates, and mail by dates. Jot gift ideas as I come across them by person. I often hear people say I wish I had this or that, if appropriate I make a note of it and the name. As my husband and I do not have 9 to 5s it helps track both income and expenses.
My digital lifesaver is a financial program I read about in a top app review… from
I love it!!! There are lots of competition in this area, probably including your regular bank.
Prism is a safe and secure way to not only keep up with but pay my bills as well. “Prism is the easy personal finance app for managing and paying bills. • “Love, love, love this app! For those of you stranded by Mint Bills…..This IS your life preserver ..”
It gives reminders, schedules payments, income and current balances of both bank accounts and credit cards. It saves me a great deal of time, stamps, and energy. Unlike some I don’t have to go between apps to get all the info I need. it does take some time for initial setup but so worth it! Even locks the info on your phone if you left it up. Keeps prying eyes out of your personal information yet with a pin code it can easily be synced to all your devices.
With these two it’s easy to control the chaos in my world. Well time to finish this up because according to my handy book it says I have more to do before hubby gets home from his job. Weeding recipes for collection cookbook to be ready for Mothers Day, Plan Easter Family Gathering, and take some free time to catch up on my to be read pile of books. What do you do to stay on track in your busy life?? Leave a comment below and share your thoughts.
OK that’s the tag line of the commercial for adoption from our local shelter. As they say “if the shoe fits”. What better way to get love the whole year through. Bringing home a new best friend will reward you with love, hugs, kisses, comedy, and snuggles all year round.
Are you a dog person or cat person? Both require care although cats are less hands on and more independent. Keep the crunchy’ s dish full. The litter box clean and let you vet get them out in their office. They are extremely independent. They give love and affection on their terms and in their own time. We have two cats that we have adopted. One was abandoned in our apartment complex. The other we adopted from a Pet Smart adoption center coordinated with Jr Humane Society. We have nothing but great luck with our two black babies. Hubby teaches them to talk… You should see him have a conversation with our kitties.
Charlie is about 5 now he is not one who takes things lying down unless, it’s on the window seat soaking up sunshine. Every night he demands that you follow him to the cabinet in the dinning room and give him a treat from the bag we keep hidden there. Lady coo’s when the food bowl is empty.
We have cats because they don’t need the level of care as a dog. Anyone who says dogs are more affectionate than cats has not met our Charlie.
Charlie and hubby
Every night following dinner he appears. He waits till he gets the signal to jump up. Within 5 minutes he assumes this position.
Lady takes her spot as close to me as she can get. Either on me or beside, she settles in for her evening nap.
Dogs are also wonderful. We’ve had a dog or dogs always while growing up. My mom’s last baby crossed the rainbow bridge last year after 17 years.
17 years old
I’m taking a friends advice and recommending the next family dog should be a husky. After seeing their talkative side on YouTube. I think my mom would love a dog who speaks to her. We hope keeping him inside air conditioned house will help temper our Florida weather.
Whether dog, cat, or other a pet will shower you with unconditional love. Our cat meets us at the door when we come home and even carries toys through the house. Lots of bundles of love are awaiting adoption so find a new friend in need of a forever home.
Make sure you do a little research before deciding if this is a good choice for you. Be prepared for time to train, veterinary needs, special diet needs or restrictions, and type of home recommended for the pet in question. I like to choose from Jr Humane Society or Humane Society because they foster pets and give a pretty good idea if they do well with small children, other pets, highly social with people, or the product of past neglect or less than ideal treatment. With an unlimited budget I would have a hard time not adopting “The Crazy Cat Lady” reputation.
I’ve listed some resources below to help you find and care for your new friend.
Pet Smart Adoption Days
My veterinarians office may have one or more residents in need of permanent homes. They also keep a bulletin board patrons can post fliers, services, or lost pets. So in honor of both Friendship Day and Valentines give yourself love from a new addition to your family.
Mr Fuzzy. My best friend of 18 years. He has moved on now but, I still miss him. He left us two years ago.
New Year, New Hopes
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As we look forward to the new year, many of us are planning changes in our lives. New Years Resolution are the theme of the day. I am resolving to take better care of my self. Diet, weight loss and more exercise will go toward better health. I’m also going to obsess over organization. I’m following a strict schedule for blog and writing. I am also embarking on rigid physical therapy to regain my mobility.
This will keep me very busy especially when combined with household redesign and organizing. Above all I want a lot less trips to the hospital. I have found lots of tips and tricks and hopefully great suggestions to stay on track. I’m starting with basic rules when setting goals.
- Make the goal acheivable. Unattainable or very hard roads to successfully completing often lead to failure.
- Break larger goals into smaller parts. It will make them more achievable and provide a sense of wellbeing when completed.
- Smaller completed goals encourage embarking on the next. Just like children that sense of accomplishment spurs us to keep going.
- Celebrate Victories even the small ones add up to progress. Rewarding your Victories reinforces your resolve to complete even more.
- Make the reward something you really want. Loss of a few pounds can be rewarded with a favorite dessert, or a glass of wine. Bigger victories need bigger rewards. So keep that in mind when choosing both the goal and reward.
Most of all make it fun. This along with reward upon completion will keep me on track the whole year through. So as we raise our glass of Champagne to toast the arrival of 2018, have your goals, defined and scheduled with rewards defined to spur us to finish.
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Here’s to the fun and accomplishments to be had. What are you striving to achieve in 2018?
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Ahhh as the song says break out the Holly . As everyone gets ready Christmas. Lights up outside, tree with all the ornaments. My first we’re kept and passed down to me so when additions to our family arrive it’s sure to be on a list. At 37 my first halmark rocking horse holds a place of honor. I find my self really missing my dad this time of the year. Every year after my parents bought this house my dad took great pride in decorating the outside with lights. For the last several years it was a special memory that we shared.
I would take my regular day off and meet early for breakfast, then spend the day getting them up. I climb the ladders , he hands them up and helps with ground level, and the front porch. As grown children we all have our own families, so usually we would be finishing when my mom got home work . She would cook something wonderfully homemade, my husband would join us, for a nice quiet evening to admire our hard work.
I thank God everyday for the time i got with my father before cancer took him from us.
“No more lives torn apart, everyone will find a friend, right will always win. This is my grown up Christmas wish list”. It hits home at this time of year . I was lucky and reminded at my brothers wedding when I watched my brothers wife enjoy her father/daughter dance.
So as the shopping , decorating and general merry making goes full speed ahead, make time for the special moments, yes even adult children should hope to have them while parents and grandparents are still here. I’m working on a family cookbook full of favorite recipes from mom, grandma, aunts and cousins before they disapprare. I’m including photos and memories disks. I look forward to baking with my mom every year it’s one of those special times . I hope my nieces get to join in the fun. You can be assured that powdered sugar and flour will dust a lot of surfaces, and the adults will have “spiked egg juice”. That’s eggnog according to my five year old niece . So here’s to family recipe’s, and Holly, whatever the tradition share your favorites. Enjoy every moment for time and those memories are what we take with us always. In the meantime I know my dad will always live on in our hearts, and what we pass on will shape them and our world in future years to come.
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Warm wishes from our family to yours. May you have plenty to be thankful for!