wedding

Do You Hear What I Hear?  

We have probably heard the song “Goin to the Chapel” and “Ding, Dong , The Wedding Bells Are Gonna Chime”. It’s wedding season in Florida. The mild spring temperatures, especially in Florida, gives us the opportunity to enjoy the outdoor venues before the heat and tourists descend on our beautiful beaches. I hear they are very popular spots for weddings.

. Pensacola Beach

As a native I considered several parks and indoor/outdoor locations. A beautiful oak shaded round gazebo surrounded by historic buildings. Across the street a 650 year old church neatly kept behind a white picket fence. Whatever your dream location, I know how quickly the sunshine turns liquid here, so mine had both indoor and out.

Take a Beautiful Step back in Time

As we celebrate 14years this Tuesday, so even though it’s not always rosy, we’ve made it this far. We must be doing something right if we’re still happily together and happy 14years later. I would say our stubbornness, patience, and positive vision has served us both well over the years.

As I look back almost all our squabbles, they have stemmed from miscommunication. He speaks apples, I speak oranges our stubbornness keeps us going until we figure out where the issue is. Our patience with each other runs from infinite, to really short, yet here we are. 20 years ago I would have said some very different qualities make for a good, lasting, happy marriage.

The last five years humor, patience, fortitude, and hopefully Grace have seen us through.

. Dinner for 2

Do you cook up something special, or let him treat you to a favorite? I save new recipes for occasions other than this. I’ve done this before so no anxiety during cooking. I try to surprise him. I’ve tried several themes over the years for these special evenings. Do your hair, makeup, fragrance, and decorate and or dress according to your theme. We’ve traveled for candlelit dinners in France, picnics on the beach, or English countryside. My goal is to make it memrable. A rustic country picnic with the family, might be right, or a sultry night with Spanish flair. Lower the lights, move furniture, get creative, choose a soft music to reflect your locale and theme. Without leaving our home.

Special for 2

Did our marriage happen like a romance novel not exactly. 14years strong, is a testament to our faith, love, and humor. Even more important the ability to adapt, meet life as it comes and never let those forces tear us apart. To the man I love twice as much today as when we first fell in love, Happy Anniversary. I love you, today, tomorrow and always.

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Ready, Set,Go!!!…

Ok, kids are headed back to the classroom, school shopping done! Back to the world of conversing with people you can actually see, without bending double.

Take a deep breath, a mini spa stay and start getting ready for the back/busy half of the year. Work, kids school projects, meetings, sleep overs, and Holiday traditions on the horizon.

Me, I love fall!! Temperature drops, colorful falling leaves, Labor Day, Football Season, Halloween, Thanksgiving, and if you were wondering what people do when it’s too cold outside and the internet is down you should see the list of Birthdays in my family. Especially if they live north of the Mason Dixon Line (assuming you can find it)! So here’s to hot chocolate, sweater weather, cute boots and the extra caffeine I claim is needed to spread the love during the hectic seasons just around the corner.

So, my posts have been very erratic lately as my Charlie kitty has been sick, I’ve been down with minor health issues. Have you ever tried giving both oral antibiotics and eye drops to a cat? I’m trying to put together, a very personal family gift for Christmas, along with other diy for Birthdays, and Holidays to come. I find early preparation and organization, let me spread cheer and not be overwhelmed. This year has also added intense physical therapy as I regain my ability to walk.

So I’m asking for some help. I want to create a one of a kind cookbook. I’ll be chiding our top family favorites, traditions, and some new to try. I want to include both the memories they invoke like Mom’s Pizza and pictures if available. So what makes the top of the list in your family? Help me choose from the recipes I post. Have you tried it? What are your thoughts? Do you have a Holliday tradition that you love to share? I strive for the feelings of love that warm even the coldest months of the year. Like my childhood memories filled with hugs, more food than is possible to eat and extra kisses under the mistletoe in my grandparents foyer chandelier. My dad would take us on a holiday light drive since we did not put up one of our own. The only interruption, hot chocolate, from his favorite doughnut shop. My sister-in-law started the Halloween Decorations, which have bloomed into my Birthday/Halloween party.

Don’t forget football season! Use any and every excuse to show some love and never regret giving enough!

Happy Father’s Day

Happy Fathers Day…. in society today that term is special.  Anybody can be a father,  but Daddy is a big job!!!  Growing up I can remember meeting my dad when he came home from work.  Blue collar all the way,  bear hugs, and tickles came with him.  He smelled of coffee, engine grease, and Brut aftershave.  He worked hard everyday, sometimes two jobs and had  very definate ideas that some find old fashioned.  For all our differences of opinion as an adult I can honestly say i’m greatful for being raised this way.  We learned the value of a dollar, manners, and respect.

.                          Daddy’s  chase away monsters under the bed or in the closet.  He worked hard for our family and spent time with us growing up.  He took imaginary phone calls, drank tea at tea parties, and helped mom make the coolest blanket forts.  Daddy’s  are mysterious creatures and I’ll explain what I mean.  Mine was a real ‘guy’.  He didn’t do things in the kitchen unless it was a Saturday or Sunday.  He did not wear blue jeans.  Button up shirts, flannel in winter.  Dad made the waffles or pancakes. (Mom had to make the eggs and bacon… He didn’t do that).  Electronic toys are great but, I learned how I should be treated by my future husband, by watching  his example.  Mine wasn’t perfect but he was perfect for me.

I remember having one of those moments in time where you realize how lucky you are.  At my younger brothers wedding I watched his bride dance with her father, of all my siblings I was fortunate enough to have a father daughter dance.  I miss the whit and gentle teasing.  I would meet him for breakfast, at a really early hour.  That was one of his quirks, if he had to be up extra early he thought we should too.  This sucked growing up on Saturday mornings.  Unless he was making bbq, he spent years perfecting that.

I carry him with me everyday, as I passed on to others he lives on in my heart.  I see his example shine through when my brothers play with their children.  Even when they don’t want to admit it.  My dad lost his battle with cancer in 2011.  I vividly remember in coming to terms with his death how lucky we were to grow up in a world where more and more families fathers are absent.   I wish they had visiting hours in heaven, but until they do, Daddy I Love You.  To all the dads out there I hope you become the hero in your family.  Daddy’s help us see ourselves like this. 

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To all the dads especially if you grew up without one and know find yourself in the role.  Spend as much time together as you can.  To my half siblings I hope you got to spend time with the same father I grew up with.  Children have no owners manuals and parents genrally do the best parenting they are able.  I hope both children and adults remember that word of wisdom mine left with me.


Are you green? Emerald that is!

Wether its the Emerald isles or the Emerald Coast, they both get their names from May’s beautiful birthstone….you guessed it Emeralds.  These precious stones have been coveted by humanity throughout history and its easy to see why.  If you have a May birthday this is your stone.  If not the allure and beauty of the stones gives all the reason needed to add these to your wardrobe.

Colors range from light Columbian to deep Emerald.  Most are determined by mine location.  The fewer inclusions the more valuable the stone.  In times gone by these stones were thought to have powers beyond matching a gown.  Some are rumored to be cursed, while some held curative powers if ingested.  Emeralds are so coveted they even have a shape of diamonds and gems named after them.

A symbol of unending love and honesty have encouraged favoritism as wedding stones of choice.  The Regency era in particular Irish and English girls received many.  Long seen as a symbol of hope and prophecy made them very popular.  Unlike the red ruby, a statement of passionate love, an emerald conveys a complex symbolism and emotions.  Cleopatra draped herself in Emerards.  Rich luscious green color beautifully played off the violet of Elizabeth Taylor’s eyes in the 1960’s 
While being most calming color green it  reflexes growth, peace,balance, and reflection.  Healing and fertility are also attributed to these very rare gemstone.  Verdant tones and inside are tempered by cool blue within the stone symbolize a steadfast bond.

Giving an emerald, you showing a dash of humanity.  You’re considered “green” or a bit naive when you don’t have everything figured out in life.  This should be seen as a positive when you consider your new life as a couple is defined by many unforseen obstacles to confront and solve together and learn lessons from.

Emeralds are often associated with strong sexuality and fertility, it was historically believed to help with difficult births or the problems bearing children.  Linked to healing and balance within the nervous, respiratory and even aid digestion.     Ancient Romans, for example, felt that the very soul of an individual was restored when they wore emerald jewelry.
So whether they are for your Birthday, or you just love the color I wish you any luck they may contain.

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I made it !!  I just had my 36th Birthday!   Anyone who is close to me knows that not too long ago the goal was to reach this age.   I’m not going to say its been easy…  I would like to think i’ve weathered the last few years withpoise and grace.   Overall I believe i’ve done rather well,  even when thoroughly aggravated or hit a low spot along the way .  What started as a stroke via a burst vessel in my brain,  is now a long recovery where we didn’t know how much damage there would be to regaining normal vision and balance.   I had to have specialized therapy to drink normal beverages and to walk again.   All the therapy and another brain surgery to remove some of the things that initially saved my life.  Turns out the tube had been giving me aweful dizziness and vertigo symptoms sometime just sitting up in bed.  That is how i spent my birthday one year later.  Last year my Christmas was spent clearing more complications this time in the form of a cyst from the original bleed that as it grew unoticed pressed on my spinal cord cutting off the messages my brain sent to my legs. I was so excited when post surgery and enough drugs to stand sitting up i could wiggle my toes.  I had read of people s o happy they cried but this was my first experience with that kind of joy.   Why am i telling you all this?   I implore people to stop living with regrets and procrastinación about your feelings.   Embrace how you feel and live the gift of life you’ve been given .  Smile,  laugh,  cry,  express your feelings , don’t wait to say i love you,  do not hesitate to clear the air with those closest to you.  Start with the general stuff as we focus on giving thanks,  endevore to make it a habit to look at all we have to be thankful for the whole year long.   Moms and dad’s,  granparents,  aunts and uncles,  friends and coworkers,  and most of all everyday you wake up to the prescious gift of children.  I have a new niece and nephew to spoil and my brothers oldest daughter who will start school soon.  I am so blessed that i get to meet them and watch them grow.   So as the hustle of the holidays begins,  remember to take time to appreciate all the blessings you already have .  Siblings,  parents, friends,  aunts,  and uncles,  never miss the chance to tell them how special they are to you. 

First Aid & Home Remedies That Work

As spring and soon summer will be upon us, our children spend more time outside, and a honey do list of projects around the house and yard.  There are lots of common issues that can be treated at home.  If a minor issue arises you can save a lot of money and sometimes skip a trek to the doctor.  This is not meant to replace medical advice by a doctor. Sometimes being a parent especially a mom requires you to do triage work as well. Growing up mom could fix most anything, from an upset stomach, Sun burns, insect bites, nose bleeds,  and splinters among others. So here we go ways to handle minor issues like a pro. Children ages 2 – 12 and adults. Younger children consult physician.

  1. Ear Ache/Swimmers Ears Ear aches or swimmers ear are both caused by some of the same causes.  Water inside or unintentional nontechnical of wax and moisture cause both ailments.  Aches can also be brought on by colds or virus causing fluids from irritated immune response, like runny nose.  The best trick is a little mineral oil warmed to about 100 – 103 degrees can soothe a full earache and most times cure it witha a dose of over counter fever reducer.  Swimmers Ear can be prevented by mixing a solution half rubbing alcohol, half white vinegar.  Two drops in  each ear after the pool, or other swimming will prevent the condition starting, by helping to dry any water left inside. If symptoms persists beyond a couple days please seek medical assistance.
  2. Sun burn.  While prevention is the best practice using high dog screen especially on new to the sun tender skin is the best way prevent not only burns now but, things like skin cancer. If anyone gets too much sun the best I have found is Noxema for minor slightly tender skin.  As an ivory very fair skinned Irish girl complete with natural red hair, my skin has no resistance to the sun.  I can burn from 15 minutes or less in the sun. For serious sun burn make some tea!  Brew regular black or breakfast tea, cool to the touch.  Use strips of an old sheet soak in tea.  Gently place on burned skin for 5  – 10 minutes. Be careful when removing the strips re-wet so they do not stick.  Will leave faintly colored slimey substance, shower off this is the acidic substance that made it burn so bad. Once the initial burn is gone stay away from repeat burns.
  3. Nasea/ upset stomach Peppermints work wonders for this all to common symptom. Whether something eaten, cold or flu, even severe motion sickness like plague me still.  Peppermint work better than most medications in the stores. If it persists warm jello will settle some of the worst I’ve experienced the only thing better you can only get via IV in hospital.  Make jello like normal heat water dissolve in 1 cup water.  When disolved add 1 cup cold water.  Sip mug full.  Do not refrigerate until consuming desired amount.
  4. Burns. Treat immediately under cool running water. The best remedy comes from the garden.  Break off leaf of aloe plant smear juice and pulp over affected area.  Will make burn pain stop and speed healing.  This is a well known one passed down through generations.  Early tribes on more than one continent have practiced and passed this one to present day.
  5. Nose bleed.  In case of bleed apply pressure to bridge of nose.  Tip head forward to drain. Spit out matter if it runs into mouth. You can apply ice to bridge of nose to help stop bleeding.  Do not blow nose hard or could start reveled.
  6. Cuts and scrapes.  Immediately wrap in clean towel or handkerchief.  When bleeding has slowed/ stopped, gently cleanse with soap and water. Pat dry.  To further cleanse use hydrogen peroxide to gently lift and clean debris from cut. Pat dry.  Add Neosporin to sterile dressing and cover with bandage.  Keep clean and covered three days.  After three days leave bandage off. 
  7. Sprains and strained muscles.  Elevate and ice to reduce swelling. Oral pain meds like Tylenol help with pain.  Rest as much as possible.  If after 1-2 days still swelling and unable to bear weight.  See physician.
  8. Always keep your first aid kit stocked.  Bandages, gauze, tape, peroxide, rubbing alcohol, Neosporin, ace bandage, thermometer, needle, thread, scissors, baking soda, sailine solution.  Pain deliver, Vicks, Vaseline, I added a heating pad, and ice packs to mine as well as large dose benadryl since I’m allergic to spiders.  I try to keep ailment specifics that have long life in it as well.  Don’t forget to replace items you use or run out of.  It is important to do this asap!  Nothing worse than reaching for it in an emergency and not having what you need.  I have a book I found a couple years back that gives instruction on more occurrences but these would be very handy to print if you can’t print this post.
  9. My last word is if unsure dial 911. Follow up any accident responsibly and contact a physician if more help is needed. First responders deserve admiration and recognition for the wonderful job they do.  While most of us run as far and fast as we can from emergency situations these brave men and women run toward these dangerous situations.  Please support your local paramedics, police, and fire fighters.  You never know, the next life they save could be yours or someone very close to you.
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